So if I was going to write my blogs in chronological order
like I usually do, I should have written this one before my last one. But I didn’t.
Oops.
I arrived in Sierra Leone on Jan. 21st but stayed
near Freetown for about a week before I went up to the village where I
work. While I was in Freetown I got a
curious call from my neighbor, asking when I was coming back up. It seems that some people had broken into my
house, stolen some things and were being held at the police station, awaiting
my return.
When I dug around a little to find out who it was, my heart
was a little bit broken. I had been
pretty close to three of the boys before they left the village to go to
Freetown. When I had girls teaching me
to cook, I would call these boys to come help me eat the rice. After we ate we would all have game
night. We had a scoreboard on my wall
keeping track of how many times each of us lost at Jenga and they were often at my house when the lights were on so
they could study. I’d thought we were
close. Definitely NOT the first thing I
wanted to deal with when I got back!
Since I had a couple days before I was going up (and they
were still waiting for a couple more boys to be brought from Freetown), I
started thinking and praying about how I was going to handle it. The neighbor who called me to inform me of
this was devastated!! One of the boys was in his custody. When he called me he
so angry he was almost in tears. He said
that he was not raising a thief and wanted to take this as far as it could go
in the court system. He was mad!!
I understood. What happened was extremely shameful for him
in the eyes of the community. He said
that this boy was “trying to spoil my job here” and I later found out that this
was because some people thought he should move on because if he hadn’t been
there, the boy wouldn’t have been there and this wouldn’t have happened. It was serious!
But I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do. One of my biggest pet peeves here is that it
often feels like there aren’t any real consequences when a wrong is done. People show up late for work or don’t show up
on time and nothing’s done. Security guards sleep all night….nothing. Policemen are constantly asking for bribes
and everyone looks the other way. It’s
just constant. And it drives me crazy. I
tend to be a pretty black and white person (which can often be to my own
detriment….I’m working on the balance) but this kind of thing is a never ending
frustration for me.
What to do, what to do.
Wouldn’t you know that the day after I found out what happened, I ran
across this verse : “To have lawsuits at
all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong?
Why not rather be defrauded?”
I had a few things stolen from my house. The biggest item
was a computer. I was an idiot and decided to leave my little netbook computer
at the house since I didn’t think I’d need it while I was home. There were also
a few missing headlamps, a bag, an internet modem and some notebooks. (These
were the things that were recovered….I have no idea if there were other things
missing. I’m just that organized).
When I was home, I saw Les Miseralbes for the first time. I
didn’t know the story before I entered the theatre and I spent the majority of
the movie near convulsions as I was sobbing so hard. It was weird. It was really weird. Even after
it was over I was so affected that I couldn’t stop crying. So of course one of the first things I think
about is the priest. (Slight spoiler
alert if you haven’t seen it!!!!) That
beloved old priest who gave food and shelter to a man who later stole all his
silver. When the police brought the man back with the stolen silver the priest
said, “No. It’s not stolen. I gave him that silver. Here, you forgot these candlesticks. There was no crime here.” The man’s life was changed forever!
I don’t know what the right thing to do every time something
like this happens. Obviously there have to be consequences when evil
occurs. But in this instance, I knew
what I wanted to do.
I arrived in the village and the next morning went to the
police station with a couple of my friends.
My stomach was in knots, knowing I had to confront these boys and not
sure how the community was going to accept what I wanted to do. Bleh. I hate confrontation!
When I arrived I asked to speak to the boys. The policemen were a little surprised but
agreed to bring them out. As everything
here seems to go, there was very little privacy and I had about 20-30 people
watching while I talked to them. Oh
gosh.
As the six boys filed out, the three that I had been close
with wouldn’t make eye contact with me. They
stood in a line in front of me and I began talking. I was nervous because they wanted me to try
and speak Krio and in vulnerable situations like this I always want to speak
English!! But I whispered a prayer for help and started muddling my way
through.
I started by telling them that when I’d heard that someone
had broken in and stolen some things from my house, I’d been angry. I needed those things! I needed them to do my
job, to communicate with my family back home, and to help others in the
community learn about computers. But
when I found out who was involved, I
became more sad than angry. I reminded
them of the times we’d spent together (imagine little gasps and “shame, shame’s”
coming from the peanut gallery). We’d
been close.
Then I told them about the verses I’d read right after I
found out what happened and how this had turned my thoughts to Jesus. Jesus.
My Precious One who has forgiven me of so much. How could I not forgive when I’d been
forgiven of so much?!?! It was
inconceivable. I talked our relationship
with God that had been broken until Jesus came to restore it. He showed us, he showed ME mercy and
forgiveness when I was his enemy. And
that’s Who I love and that’s Who I follow.
I pulled out the charger for the computer (that had been
with me so they hadn’t taken it) and handed it over to them. I then pulled out
the money that remained in order for them to be released from jail and gave it
to the chief policeman. And I told them
it was finished. They were
forgiven. The things they’d stolen were
theirs to keep. It wasn’t because I didn’t need them, but it was because I love
Jesus and therefore love them and want our relationship to be restored. And as far as I was concerned, it was. We were fine and they were welcome at my
house any time (this is where I got the biggest gasp from the crowd. Just goes to show you how they are more
relationally minded than money minded).
I told them that I recognized that what I was doing was
dangerous. There was a chance that they
would come back and steal again. There
was a chance that others would hear about the grace extended and would also come
to my house and break in, believing that there would be no reprocussions. But Grace is dangerous. The grace that God extends to us can be (and
often is) not accepted, mocked or abused.
But I trust that God will be the defender of my rights. If people keep breaking in and taking my
things….God, who can do anything He wants, STOP anyone He wants doesn’t
think I really need those things. And one day, God will make everything
right. Until then, I will trust Him to
defend my rights. So that was that.
I’m not really sure how the boys took it. They didn’t say
anything. One guy piped up and said, “You
see? This is the difference between you Christians and we Muslims. We don’t forgive like this. We would never
forgive like this!” Of course that’s not
true. I know many Muslims who are very
forgiving. But I was so so SO excited to
see that they saw Jesus in this, and not just my white skin!! So often the
things I do are just attributed to my “being white” than to my “following Jesus”
and I had been begging God to let them see Him. I was so glad that some did!
So that was that. My
little bit of village drama to start off my third year. I was hesitant to share this because….it just
feels weird. But I was so excited about
Jesus showing up that I couldn’t resist.
It’s such an adventure to follow Him!!
wow! amazing story! thanks for sharing! jon siebert
ReplyDeleteLove it! Your story amazes me...something you said sounds very nearly like a quote out of a book I have been reading. "How could I not forgive when I’d been forgiven of so much?" I want to live this in my own life, but so often find my needs/wants/desires/rights more important. Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteGood job Emily!
Praying that we all can find the strength to follow your example. Do you need another computer? SFM
ReplyDeleteTo forgive is to give up your "right" to restoration or revenge. But really it is freeing. It frees them but even more it frees you from the nagging feeling of hurt and fear associated with being violated. God Bless you Emily. May God give you peace to trust those who might someday hurt you, just like he did those who did hurt Him. Dr.karen
ReplyDeleteWow Emily! It's evident that God was preparing you for this situation. How hard, and awesome at the same time. Praying with you for the six boys and for the members of your audience. I'm thankful that you wrote about this situation.
ReplyDeleteEmily, Thanks for such a wonderful story. I love when the LORD takes someone "out of the box". You're a true testimony to showing the heart of God!
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